Our friends are married!!!! The wedding ceremony was very beautiful, the bride was absolutely gorgeous, and the red, white and gold all looked so pretty together. My daughter and the ring bearer were SO cute. There were some great photos taken and everyone was very happy with the way things went. Sweetie says that he won’t do another wedding ever again without a day-of coordinator (which is what I did today) because it took such a load off his mind to have someone taking care of the details today. It was fun. The timing worked out just right, getting everyone into place at the right time.
I’m exhausted! It has been quite a day, and it’s not over yet.
We head back out to the reception in a bit. Thankfully we’re not doing much for that – Sweetie is giving the Blessing for the meal and that’s about it. We get to sit and eat.
This couple, now husband and wife, have been friends of ours for over a year now. We did their pre-marital mentoring and enjoyed helping them get some tools into their toolboxes for dealing with all the fun and challenges that marriage brings. The biggest thing we try to give them is an arsenal of communication tools. Clear communication, and understanding the best way to communicate with each other can go a long way in whatever you might be dealing with in a marriage (or in life, for that matter).
We could see over the past week how communication played a huge role in all the wedding coordination and how this couple had grown in that area, dealing with last minute changes, last minute details and last minute frustrations. At least from our perspective, they did pretty well!
In our pre-marital mentoring we often talk about just getting to know one another, lots of things about one another, things that you may never have thought about before. Having good questions to ask one another can start great conversations and help you learn about more about your partner and about each other’s comunication styles.
In fact, it is estimated that 83% of divorces occur because couples didn’t ask these questions while they were dating. It’s amazing what you can learn if you’re willing to ask the hard questions, and to answer them honestly with each other.
I don’t think this couple has answered ALL of the questions (have any of us!?) but they are building a strong foundation of honesty and communication for their marriage. May God bless them in their new life together! Yay R & A!
